What is resiliency? Resiliency is the ability to bounce back or rebound from a challenge, setback, disaster, illness, or even death of a loved one. When you don’t have resiliency, you may feel victimized, feeling overwhelmed, use unhealthy coping mechanisms such as alcohol abuse or substance abuse or might focus on the problem itself.

Being resilient does not mean the problem will go away. Being resilient means having the ability to see past the problem to be able to handle the stress. 


How do you develop your resiliency? Resiliency is having the ability to adapt to challenges. Being resilient means you protect yourself mentally and physically. You reach out to your Resiliency toolbox and find ways how to solve the problem. Use your four pillars of health such as the physical, spiritual, emotional, and social pillars of health.

Physical Pillar: 

Increase your physical activity. Go take a walk. Go walk in nature. Dance in your living room. When we become physically active, we produce endorphins which are feel-good hormones in our body. We decrease the stress hormones in your body that results in having a better outlook on life. By being physically active you will sleep better and you will feel refreshed. This will improve your mood. Your self-esteem will be better.

Spiritual Pillar:

Reaching out to your church, your Pastor May help you with your grief. Have a morning prayer. Talking to someone helps decrease stress. Make every day meaningful. Find your daily meditation calms your mind and decreases your anxiety and stress. Meditation helps you have emotional balance and inner peace. Studies have shown that meditation increases happiness. It improves your health. Your relationship with your friends and family is better. You have success at work. You perform better. You are spirituality is awakened when you meditate.

Emotional Pillar:

Strengthening our emotional pillar keeps our relationships healthy. Learn how to say no. Learn how to have boundaries in life even with family and friends. Talk about your feelings and verbalize them to someone you trust. Ask for help when you feel overwhelmed. Learn to take breaks so you can refuel yourself. Do self-care routine. And a bad relationship. Commit yourself to consistency. Live within your financial means.

Find hope. Acceptance of what is going on with your stressors and challenges and finding out what you can do about them makes it easier to adapt.

Make every day meaningful. Find your purpose in life. Do something that will have your sense of accomplishment. Set short-term goals and long-term goals.

 Be proactive. Do not ignore your problems. Solve the problem. Figure out what needs to be done. Phone a friend.  Ask for help. Practice stress management and relaxation by doing meditation, deep breathing, yoga, meditation.  

Social Pillar:

The COVID-19 pandemic has been hard on all of us. Stay connected with your friends and family through your phone, FaceTime, and other social media apps. Write a letter and mail it to your family. Control what you can control.

If you are having difficulty in life and are not able to use your resiliency, please click on the link and make an appointment.